Husband being the head of household…

Eph 5:22-23 NKJV) Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. {23} For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.

I know a lot of women now days have trouble with this verse.  Submit–what does that actually mean??  Twelve years ago my husband told me he wanted out of our marriage.  We had a miscarriage a few years earlier and well, I kind of got lost in my grief.  The thing is I didn’t even then realize it.  When I came out of the darkness of the grief it was to find my marriage falling apart.  There really was no hope left–only because of  so many praying for us is the reason we are still together today.  It has taken a lot of work on both of our part to rebuild our marriage.  It is something we have to work on daily.  One thing I have learned is that if a man isn’t the head of the home then he is incomplete.   When God made man he built-in them the need to be the leader  and the head of his household–when we women try to take over and run everything without even giving them a say so–we are taking away apart of what God built into them.  Submitting doesn’t mean we have no say–it means that in a good marriage you discuss, the wife gives your two cents but in the end it is the husband’s decision to do what is best for the family.  For a long time my husband didn’t really take this role on–his heart wasn’t into our family and rebuilding our marriage  but the last few years he has started taking more of this role on and honestly,  I love having my husband be the head of our home.  As a wife and mother we have enough on our shoulders just running the household, caring for the kids and if you work then your jobs without having to take the main role of a man away from him.  Our roles as wife, supporter, helpmate and mother is a lot on our shoulders as it is–I honestly don’t want to take on the role of being responsible for making the big decisions and leading the family.  Here is the question do you trust your husband enough to let him be the leader?  If not then there is some hidden issues that you need to deal with.  Without trust a marriage can not blossom into what God has plan for it.  Ladies let your husband lead your family–husbands in your process of leading your family remember your wives has feelings and needs so always take her opinion in consideration when making decisions. God created each of us for a reason–we complete each other when we work together to make a good marriage and family life. When one take on role of  the husband and wife then that one will become overwhelm and burnt out.  In truth we need each other.  Submitting to our husband as leader of our home doesn’t make us less of a person….it just means we want our marriage to run the way God has plan.



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